We all want the same thing - to be happy, to have peace of mind. When peace of mind is disburbed, we become unhappy, agitated, stressed-out. Dr. Henry Grayson, a psychoanalyst by training, describes a five-step process that you can use to change your thoughts from negative to positive. This process takes a few minutes and you can practice it where ever you are.
Step 1. WHAT
As soon as you become aware that you do not have peace of mind as a result of a thought you are thinking, ask yourself the question, “What thought was I thinking that disturbed my peace of mind?”
Step 2. LABEL
Consciously think the thought. “I was thinking that I she must not like me because she didn’t want to join me for coffee.” Label the thought for what it is. “This is one of those ego thoughts that disturbs my peace of mind”.
Step 3. ASK
Ask yourself “Do I want to keep thinking this ego thought?”
Step 4. TAKE CONTROL
Take action. Because you are in control of what you think, you can choose your thoughts. Choose a decisive, action work like “delete”. See yourself using the delete button on your computer as you are deleting this thought. You can also make a statement like “I choose to let this thought go or I delete this thought.” It is important not to fight against the thought – simply observe the thought going away.
Step 5. REPLACE
After you’ve deleted the old thought, replace it with a general positive statement such as "I am a peaceful and loving person" or a statement specifically related to the old thought, such as, “I am a likeable person.”
This process does not require much time and it does require your awareness and focus. Practice as required and watch your negative thoughts change into positive ones at your command.
As a counselor who works with clients using telephone counseling, I use the process to teach clients how they too can take control over what they are thinking and restore peace of mind.